I was at an event recently and listened to the speaker talking about ‘Superheroes’ and it got me thinking…
Who are my Superheroes?
*All the single parents out there who step up and put their children first and above anything. Those who recognise the impact of bringing children up in an unhealthy relationship and make the brave decision to separate for the sake of their children.
*The many women I have supported over the years that live with an abusive partner and are survivors. We often hear – ‘well if it was that bad, she would leave…’ actually it isn’t that easy. There are many many reasons why people stay in abusive relationships, you should never judge someone’s decision to stay or leave .
These women are some of the strongest women I know. Living with those levels of fear, anxiety and exhaustion on a daily basis requires an amazing amount of strength and resilience – and to separate and stay separated takes tremendous courage and willpower.
* The women that strive to make changes to improve women’s rights – those that aim to improve systems within divorce and family Courts to make them safer and to ensure the voice of the child is heard.
* The children that find an inner strength when they have experienced domestic abuse and strive to ensure they don’t repeat the same patterns.
* The professionals I work alongside who do their very best to ensure our clients get the very best support and advice they need – who challenge those they go up against and give strength to clients who are often feeling at their most vulnerable.
*Fathers who maintain contact after separation with their children but don’t use it as an excuse to continue abusing their ex. Those fathers who get up at the crack of dawn to go to work in a job they hate to ensure their children have everything they need and still have the energy to play with them when they get home.
*Me! I discovered a strength I didn’t know I had when I separated from my first husband. I gained new skills, a new independence, new friends and a far better and more fulfilling life than I ever had before. It wasn’t easy, but I did it and I am proud !
Who is your superhero? Is it you?
It doesn’t have to be anything dramatic – small actions can make a huge difference. Be your own superhero – do something kind for someone else today, make someone feel better, put a smile on someone else’s face – just because!
Take that step you have been scared to make, reach out – be brave, you won’t regret it!
Be your own superhero (e) and remember, life is too short to be unhappy…
