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Caron Kipping – Divorce & Separation Coach
Master Practitioner Divorce Coach specialising in abusive and controlling relationships.
Also providing IDVA support in Family Court, training and consultancy.
Clients worldwide.
So nice to finish this week on a positive note- I received the loveliest email from a client I supported way back..![]()
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“I still remember our call (I was sat in my shed which was my office outside in the garden), when I was wanted to leave my controlling abusive husband and how helpful and understanding you were. It was such a difficult time in my life – I had been married for 34 years at the time and did not have the guts to leave however your guidance really did help me to take those first steps forward.![]()
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I have continued to receive your newsletters and follow your Facebook posts over the years. I always find comfort in reading the stories and experiences of other women – I am always “rooting for them” and seeing the incredible support that you continue to give to people who are in difficult situations or rebuilding their lives.![]()
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As for me, life has changed beyond recognition (Recognition to Recovery hey 😁) – I am now living in x with my wonderful partner, who took us on an amazing holiday for my birthday and I can honestly say that I am loving life. I am looked after, happy and finally at peace (we have a plaque on the outside of our apartment that says “We choose Peace and Love”). After everything that came with the breakdown of my marriage, the divorce and setting up a new home and life, I have come through the other side and am now simply enjoying an awesome new life.![]()
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Incidentally – I brought 2 copies of your book as I was going to send one to my ex-husband when we divorced, however I didn’t in the end as I sent it to a lady who was going through something similar – I thought it could help her be brave and get out of the relationship.![]()
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My heart is full. 💗![]()
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#clientlove #feelgoodfriday❤️ #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport
A timely reminder last week when a local case was published in the media- a 62 year old man was murdered by his wife after reporting years of domestic abuse often triggered by her alcohol use, yet he always refused to support police proceedings against her. ![]()
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There are several risk factors here that are typical in coercive relationships (whether the abuser is male or female) :![]()
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*Separation ![]()
*A history of alcohol misuse ![]()
* Financial abuse ![]()
* Abuser refusing to let police into the home![]()
* Repeated reports to police about domestic abuse ![]()
* Victim declining police intervention ![]()
* Threats to kill ![]()
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Patterns of coercive control are predictable. Please don’t struggle alone if you recognise yourself in this kind of scenario. ![]()
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I have a peer support group for men experiencing coercive control and post-separation abuse if anyone needs it. @mankind_initiative @paullavellefoundation ![]()
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#mensmentalhealthweek #mensuffertoo #supportformen #divorcecoachformen #divorcesupportformen
Coercive control is subtle- it happens gradually through patterns of behaviour- this is why so many people stay far longer than they ever expected. ![]()
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If this is happening to you or if you’re unsure if what you’re experiencing is abuse, get in touch- let’s talk. ![]()
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#coercivecontrol #patternsofabuse #cycleofabuse #domesticabuseadvocate #divorcesupport
This one made me chuckle yesterday even though it was extreme and serious- an abuser trying to justify keeping an illegal weapon by suggesting they were using it for gardening! 🤦♀️![]()
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You would think they could have come up with a more reasonable explanation than that! 😆![]()
Abusers will always come up with some excuse to try and justify their behaviour and avoid taking responsibility for it- some are just plain old excuses, some are funny because they are so ridiculous and some are just clear attempts to shift the blame. ![]()
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It got me thinking.. what is the most ridiculous justification your ex gave to try and justify their behaviour? If it’s safe to do so, comment below 👇 ![]()
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#liarliar #shiftingtheblame #excusesexcuses #makingexcuses #manipulation
If only we had this in the UK- the financial burden associated with leaving an abusive relationship is often too difficult for people to comprehend. Stay and put up with abusive behaviour or end the relationship and face financial hardship and unstable housing.. not a great choice to be faced with. ![]()
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Unmarried survivors are often the worst hit financially and our Government is bringing in improvements to help those who are most vulnerable but as usual it’s all happening too slowly. ![]()
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There are options but they’re often not easy. ![]()
If you need advice on housing options in the UK and abusive/controlling relationships get in touch. Knowing your rights is key to understanding your choices and from there you can at least make informed decisions about what you want to do.
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