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Caron Kipping – Divorce & Separation Coach
Master Practitioner Divorce Coach specialising in abusive and controlling relationships.
Also providing IDVA support in Family Court, training and consultancy.
Clients worldwide.
One of my ladies successfully won her financial court case this week. She was extremely nervous about going back into court and couldn’t afford legal representation or court support but I reassured her and encouraged her and believed she had a strong case. ![]()
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Her ex was trying to change the financial order and reduce his global maintenance payments to zero, stating financial hardship and had already stopped paying what he was ordered to. ![]()
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The Judge didn’t fall for his lies( the fact he had already committed to a large mortgage for himself and bought himself a new car kind of undermined his argument a bit!).![]()
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I know it’s difficult to have faith in our legal system but sometimes it does work 💪![]()
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#financialabuse #postseparationabuse #legalabuse #coercivecontrol #divorcesupport
Warning signs of coercive control- get in touch if you need to know what they are. Don’t keep on repeating the cycle.
Today it’s my 21st Anniversary with this one @martinkipping1964 💕![]()
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We met through mutual friends on a night out (one neither of us really wanted to go on). I hadn’t seen him there before and would most likely not have seen him again. We got chatting, realised we were both having a tough time going through divorce, so he suggested we meet up occasionally to get us both out of the house. ![]()
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I remember thinking ‘I don’t know if I can be bothered’ but tbh at that point if someone was going to offer me a free dinner and a night out I wasn’t going to turn them down. Life was pretty miserable then and I didn’t have much to look forward to so what did I have to lose? ![]()
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Anyway, as it happened things clicked- and he quickly became my biggest cheerleader. ![]()
We have been through highs and lows and challenges and great times, but through it all we have always been a team. ![]()
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So thankyou to everyone who told me was a lovely fella – you were right! 🙏![]()
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Here’s a couple of thoughts about dating after divorce:![]()
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1) Dating after divorce can be scary, but I was determined I would never change myself for anyone again – so my next person was either going to love me as I am or not at all. ![]()
Remember how fabulous you really are and don’t let anyone make you feel anything less. Keep checking in with yourself to make sure you’re being authentic and not conforming just to make someone like you. ![]()
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2)Meeting through friends is always a great way to check whether someone is authentic. You can check their relationship history, and find out more about them to help you make an informed decision. Everyone told me my husband was a lovely man- so they couldn’t all be wrong.. ![]()
Don’t let emotions cloud your judgement- it’s easy to jump towards the first person that shows you a bit of affection after divorce- that’s ok short-term perhaps but if you’re looking for a long-term partner you need to check them out properly before committing. ![]()
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3)Don’t ever turn down an opportunity, unless you really have to- push yourself out of your comfort zone, because sometimes that might be the moment that changes the direction of your life for the better. ![]()
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#relationshipgoals #anniversary #lifeafterdivorce
Words from a couple of ladies in my peer support group- nobody truly understands it unless they have been through it. I have been there too- I ‘get it’ and I know what you need. ![]()
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When you separate from an abuser, it’s tough- more than tough. It’s not ‘enjoying the time you get to yourself’ it’s stressful , panic- inducing, confusing. You feel like the odd one out in the crowd – you feel like everyone has an opinion or a judgement about you, you can’t truly explain to people who have never been through this what it feels like- because you know it would shock, confuse or overwhelm them. It’s hard to explain and understand it yourself so how can you explain it to others?? ![]()
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My groups are safe- nobody gets in unless I have spoken to them and checked them out. You can stay in my group for as long as you need it- to learn from others, just to feel less alone, to post or not to post. ![]()
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There’s no judgement. No blame. Just space where you can rant, ask for help, compassion, a listening ear, a few tips from others who have been where you are. We’ve got you. ![]()
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To join just dm me or email me at info@caronkippingcoaching.com![]()
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#postseparationabuse #supportgroup #peersupport #emotionalsupport #divorcesupport
What you are aiming for is to reach a place where you aren’t so triggered by your ex’s actions, comments and opinions- to get to where you roll your eyes or laugh about it rather than having the strong nervous response.![]()
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Of course there will be times when you feel less resilient and times when you aren’t able to bounce back as quickly but the long term goal is to really care less about your ex- to be unbothered by what they are doing or saying about you. ![]()
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One of my ladies had a moment of panic and anxiety recently when she was faced with an unexpected situation but she remembered how to calm herself down, she handled the situation brilliantly and grounded herself- reminded herself she was safe and that she didn’t need to be scared anymore because we can handle anything that happens – a few months ago that would have caused a complete meltdown. ![]()
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Remember you are in control of your reactions. ![]()
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Bother less💗![]()
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#unbothered💁🏽♀️ #botherless #careless #bouncebackquicker #gettingstrongereveryday