This year Christmas will be different for everyone. It may also be your first Christmas without family to distract you from your partner’s behaviour or it may be your first one without your children. You may be forced to live with your partner while you are separating or co-parenting and Read more
This is the International Day to eliminate violence against women. https://www.whiteribbon.org.uk/day Although domestic abuse can happen to anyone, predominantly it is women who are affected. Domestic abuse isn’t just physical. It can consist of many more subtle behaviours – isolating you from friends/family, witholding finances, putting you down and criticising Read more
Pregnancy is often a time when abuse escalates. Read my blog here:https://www.thedivorcemagazine.co.uk/pregnancy-controlling-relationships-and-divorce/ Having a baby doesn’t make things better. If your relationship is abusive or controlling, it is likely to get worse. Contact me for advice.
My latest blog is up here: https://www.thegrouphug.com/2020/10/29/controlling/ Going to court with a controlling ex is never easy and sometimes you can feel as though you are being rail-roaded into it. It can cost you a fortune (money that ideally could be spent on creating a happier future for you and Read more
Caz came to see me after struggling to maintain boundaries with her husband who she had separated from a few months earlier. They saw each other regularly when he came to see the children and he had moved on to another relationship, but for Caz it was almost as if Read more
Gaslighting is a really powerful tactic of abuse and has been around forever, but it has only been discussed more openly in the past few years. It is one of the most powerful brainwashing techniques that abusers use – it may be subtle but what it does is make you Read more
The months, and perhaps even years, of stress and overwhelm can take it’s toll on your confidence and self-esteem. When you are in an unhappy relationship you can have little energy, time or inspiration for yourself . If you are in a controlling relationship you might not be ‘allowed’ to Read more
Julie came to see me as she wanted to divorce her husband and had been wanting this for many years, but for some reason, there was always something stopping her from taking that first step. Julie was clear that her marriage was over but needed someone to support her and Read more
Leaving any relationship is difficult – being the one to make the final decision, having to have ‘that’ conversation with your partner, there is no getting away from it, choosing to leave someone who has effectively controlled most if not all of your life for some time is scary. Here Read more
I am delighted to introduce Cheryl Lee-White a local parenting blogger who has kindly written this blog all about self-care, which is sooo important! Time Out for You Taking time out for you and implementing a self-care routine is probably one of the best things you can do as a Read more