There is a growing trend for people to celebrate when they receive confirmation that they are no longer married to their ex. It seems there is a reason to celebrate lots of things we never used to – there’s ‘gender-reveal’ parties, baby showers and lots of people renewing their vows – which was never ‘a thing’ a few years ago. Divorce parties and divorce holidays are all becoming more popular – so much so that holiday companies and hotels are now cashing in on the trend.
Am I ready to Party?
It’s really up to you . When I got divorced, i had been through a really difficult time and my friends took me out for the evening. People were coming up to me saying ‘Congratulations’ – which seemed a bit bizarre to be congratulating someone on the end of their marriage, but we had a great night and there is still a song that takes me back to that memory every time i hear it. It seemed as if it was playing just for me, to let me know that this was the beginning of a new era.
You may not feel ready to let go of your marriage, especially if you didn’t want the break up in the first place – you might still be working through those negative emotions and need a bit more time before you can start celebrating. Nobody ever really enters into a marriage thinking one day you might be celebrating the end of it, but if the marriage left you feeling unhappy and the separation has been difficult, marking the end of that difficult period of your life can give you some sense of closure . You might be ready to throw off your wedding ring, embrace your new life and open the bubbly. If you have been through a tough time – and let’s face it, divorce is not an easy process for anyone, a Divorce Party can mark the end of a long and painful journey.
Hot Tubs and Bubbles
One of my close friends recently threw a divorce party to celebrate her new beginnings and as a way to thank everyone that had supported her through her separation. A year ago she would never have imagined that she would have the life she has now. Her break-up came completely ‘out of the blue’ – knocking the wind out of her sails, so to speak, and she really struggled to understand how she hadn’t seen it coming.
Of course any separation is like a grieving process, whether the separation was your choice or not, and over the past few months she has come to terms with her new direction in life. In recent months she has flourished – recognised her own worth, regained her confidence and self-esteem and given the choice, she would now opt never to go back to her old life as she much prefers this one! She has gained a new career, re-established lapsed friendships, gained confidence in her parenting and even gained a lovely new man! We are so proud of you !
Celebrate what you have Gained
Whatever you choose to do, go with it and make sure it is right for YOU – whether that’s being with friends celebrating or just watching a ‘Rom Com’, if you choose to do a bungee jump or simply enjoy time on your own quietly ‘letting go’, make the most of this new stage in your life. Take control of your situation, focus on the things you have gained, rather than what you have lost.
How have you marked the end of an era?
Have you:
- Embraced being able to make your own choices?
- Found a new more confident ‘you’?
- Become financially independent?
- Discovered the benefits of parenting without a partner?
- Gained new friendships or rekindled lost ones?
- Become closer to friends/family due to your separation?
- Enjoyed putting yourself first!
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