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Caron Kipping – Divorce & Separation Coach
I’m a Divorce Coach specialising in abusive and controlling relationships.
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How are you doing? How are you really doing?? ![]()
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Don’t just say ‘everything’s fine’, don’t just muddle along or put up with stuff just because you don’t have the energy to deal with it. ![]()
Don’t just ignore and pretend because that’s your way of coping. ![]()
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Whatever it is that’s troubling you right now- there’s a positive way to deal with it. ![]()
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✅It can be easier to share your problems with someone else who understands. ![]()
✅Taking control over it and taking decisive action stops you from feeling helpless.![]()
✅Try only to focus on issues you can control![]()
✅Work hard to control your emotions- almost everything can be managed better when you do that ![]()
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Start this week positively- positive thoughts and positive action! ![]()
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Got a message yesterday from a client letting me know that as expected her ex was still being difficult about child arrangements. 😡![]()
A year ago this would have been enough to send her into a panic and completely ruin her weekend- instead this time she chose to react differently and took herself off to fulfill a lifelong dream night out! 🙌![]()
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You can’t always control things but you CAN choose how you react to it. ![]()
Crying doesn’t change your situation (yes it helps release the tension a bit, but don’t sit and wallow). Your ex wants you to shout, to challenge, they want to stress you out and make you panic, so do the opposite! ![]()
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Choose how to react and respond- challenge assertively but not emotionally , choose to ignore them, find a way to manage it or flip it and turn a negative into a positive- and move on. ![]()
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Taking control back over your actions and emotions is empowering – and on that note I wish you all a happy weekend in the sunshine whatever you are choosing to do ! 🌞 ![]()
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Try and understand what the CAFCASS officer is trying to ascertain when compiling their report – familiarise yourself with the Welfare Checklist:![]()
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1) wishes and feelings of the child![]()
2)physical, emotional and educational needs of each child ![]()
3) likely effect of any change in circumstances ![]()
4) age, sex, culture and anything else they consider relevant to these proceedings ![]()
5) evidence of or potential risk of harm ![]()
6)capabilities of parents to meet the child’s needs![]()
7) range of powers available to the court in order to protect children ![]()
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Understanding what CAFCASS are considering can help you articulate your concerns, highlight risk and put across your position on child arrangements. ![]()
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It’s not always easy to explain this to a professional who doesn’t know you, your children or your ex so if you need support then get in touch. For more information go to www.childlaw advice.org.uk ![]()
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Are you no longer happy in your relationship, but struggling to accept it is time to move on?![]()
*Are you trying to hang on to hope that it will get better? Newsflash – if it's abusive, it won't. ![]()
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*Are you feeling guilty for the 'break up' of the family unit? If your partner is controlling, it's not your fault. You have a right to protect yourself and a right to be happy.![]()
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*Are you waiting for the children to leave home, for a better time to separate? There is no perfect time. It will be difficult for the children at times, no matter what their age, but maybe it's already difficult for them now.![]()
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There is no perfect time to separate. Nobody ever does it suddenly – it usually takes a lot of consideration and deliberation, but if you are sure that separation is the right decision, don't wait. ![]()
If you wait too long you may regret it – all the time you are waiting, you are wasting the chance to become truly happy again. ![]()
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Divorce and separation certainly isn't easy, especially when you are leaving someone who is controlling, but neither is staying in a relationship that makes you miserable. ![]()
Life is too short to be unhappy. ![]()
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For initial advice about your options and to discuss the process of separation, get in #divorcei#Separationp#divorcecoachcom ![]()
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Another booking for IDVA court support 👍I love this part of my work now. Court can feel like a very scary place but much less so when you have someone by your side. ![]()
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If you have a Court Hearing coming up for child arrangements/finances and you feel like you need someone beside you for support, get in touch. ![]()
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If you are representing yourself as a Litifant in Person , having someone by your side who understands the legal jargon, who can take notes and keep you calm can make a big difference to how you represent your case. ![]()
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If you have legal representation, having me there allows your team to focus on doing their best job for you, whilst I look after you and take lots of notes so you don’t have to- teamwork! ![]()
If it comes down to writing up Child Arrangement Orders on the day I can contribute to conversations about the details, ensuring you avoid the loopholes abusers use. I know the potential points of conflict and can help you avoid them. ![]()
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You don’t need to be a regular client of mine to access this support, just get in touch. ![]()
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* Please note I cannot offer legal advice. This service is for Court Hearings in South East and London. ![]()
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