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Caron Kipping – Divorce & Separation Coach
Master Practitioner Divorce Coach specialising in abusive and controlling relationships.
Also providing IDVA support in Family Court, training and consultancy.
Clients worldwide.
Everyone ending an abusive relationship goes through a process- what we professionals call the ‘Stages of Change’. ![]()
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Pre-Contemplation is the first stage- denial. You pretend everything is ok, you minimise the seriousness of the abuse, you blame yourself, think you must try harder, adjust your behaviour in the belief that it will improve things. ![]()
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You aren’t ready to make any changes, you are just try to deal with things the best way you can. ![]()
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You normalise abusive behaviour as a way of coping and distancing yourself from reality- because if you did accept the reality you might have to do something about it and that feels too scary. ![]()
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I spoke to a lady yesterday who normalised horrific violence and dangerous behaviour- I didn’t sugar coat my advice- my advice was clear and simple- get out before he kills you. In circumstances like that you cannot delay. ![]()
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It’s not always as serious as that but the psychological impact of staying in an abusive relationship can feel just as scary. ![]()
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Where are you in the Stages of Change?? ![]()
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If you need guidance, safety planning and/or support get in touch- because your needs matter just as much as your partners. ![]()
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#coercivecontrol #stagesofchange #workingthroughtrauma #divorcecoach #domesticabuseawareness
After a very difficult few years this lady finally moved into her own home. ![]()
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It began with domestic abuse, then involved family court proceedings, contested financial proceedings and a bereavement – when the trauma from those things compounded, she understandably had difficulty coping and one glass of wine led to another..( did you know it’s very common for survivors of domestic abuse to use alcohol as a coping strategy? ). ![]()
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Of course her ex took full advantage of the situation and used the children as a weapon. 🙄This lady could have given up- but she didn’t- she dug deep. She accepted responsibility, she went’ ‘over and above’ to get herself back on track and has come back stronger and more determined than ever. ![]()
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She’s now moved into her own home, her sanctuary, the place she can finally make her own, dressed in her unique style, reflecting her personality. It’s the place to create new happy memories. 🏡![]()
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She’s moved into her next chapter with the tools and resources to ensure even if she struggles again she can use healthy coping strategies and she’s determined to face whatever comes head on. In her words: ‘I have realised my abuser is the one with the addiction- the need to have a supply, to seek the adrenaline rush of having power over me- my addiction was an echo. Now I understand him better, why would I want to let him continue having that power over me?!’ ![]()
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The legal case might be over (for now) but she still has access to support from me and the other ladies in our Facebook community for as long as she wants it. Soproud of her! Excited to see what the future holds for her now. Recovery is never easy, but if you learn from your experiences and you work hard at it, you see the results 💗![]()
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#newchapter #freshstart #overcomingtrauma #traumarecovery #healthycopingmechanisms
In just over four weeks, Andy will be cycling 300 miles across Italy with a group of Lycra clad locals. This coast-to-coast adventure, from Pisa to Rimini, will see them climb almost the equivalent height of Mount Everest over four days!![]()
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They’re using this challenge as an opportunity to raise money for Andy’s Man – It’s an incredible charity which supports men struggling with mental health.![]()
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Support for men’s mental health is so important but sadly so often unavailable. Any donations would be hugely appreciated 🙏![]()
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LCCC 2026 300 mile Pisa to Rimini charity cycle fundraiser for ANDYSMANCLUB
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Help S P Orwin raise money to support ANDYSMANCLUB
People assume that if something is serious, it must be obvious. ![]()
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Coercive control is designed to be the opposite of obvious. ![]()
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It seeps in gradually, slowly, through patterns of behaviour, not an isolated, explosive event. ![]()
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This subtlety is what makes everyone succeptible to control- it can literally happen to anyone, it happens right in front of your eyes and you still can’t see it. ![]()
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This is why so many intelligent, capable people stay so much longer than they ever thought they would. ![]()
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It’s not because they’re weak, but because the situation is complex. ![]()
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Understanding this is often the first step towards gaining clarity- to book your call with me just dm me, or book through my website. ![]()
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#relationships #coercivecontrol #controllingrelationship #educateyøurself #unhappyrelationship
Parenting apps- features often not used and pricing exemptions – these are often the safest and best way to communicate with a controlling ex, to protect evidence of coercive parenting and to minimise excessive, unnecessary and aggressive communication. ![]()
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They’re not going to stop your ex from trying to lie, harass and control, but they can make it easier for you to maintain boundaries. ![]()
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#parentingtips #coercivecontrol #Postseparation #DivorceCoach