This morning I was invited on to BBC Women’s Hour on Radio 4 https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b007qlvb to discuss the hugely successful Netflix series ‘The Maid’ https://www.netflix.com/gb/title/81166770.
Along with journalist Rachel Sigee, we discussed the subtle signs of emotional abuse and coercive control. This drama had me hooked from the beginning and although it shows a sterotypical case where both parties come from chaotic and vulnerable backgrounds, it shows that you CAN get out, you CAN put yourself first and no matter how difficult leaving can seem, it CAN be done.
It’s a tough watch
Be warned, it is a tough watch – I found it very emotional, not only because it was so realistic, but because I knew that the incredible writers actually ‘got it’ – they understood that survivors often blame themselves for abuse that isn’t their fault, that sometimes abusers can be nice and helpful, they aren’t always bad and that often friends and family judge and can’t understand why they would leave.
If you are experiencing this right now, be aware, watching this may be too much – it’s not graphic, but it draws you in to the story and there may be many moments that you can relate to in the story. It’s a great watch for anyone who hasn’t experienced abuse in their relationship, but wants to understand it better. whether you are a professional, a family member, or a friend.
Thank you for getting me off of that carpet.
Inspiration
I don’t want to give any spoilers away, but if you are going through this right now, know that no matter how tough things get, there is always a way out and a way forwards. Keep going, don’t give up – get support, advice and understand how to protect yourself in the process.
If you need further advice, contact me or your local domestic abuse organisation if you are worried about your safety.
