The courts are about to get tougher on parents who use the court system as a way to continue abuse and to use it as a platform to bully.
Parents who bring vexatious claims to the family courts will face financial penalties under plans being drawn up by the government.
Dominic Raab, the justice secretary, wants mediation to be the default process for divorce cases to stop warring couples clogging up the family courts system.
Mediation as a default
Mediation was always something we never recommended when there was abusive and controlling relationship in a relationship, however, mediators are better trained now to recognise abusive behaviour and with the way the courts are, if you are able to settle during mediation it has to be better for everyone involved.
Shuttle mediation, where you aren’t even in the same room as your ex or video-based mediation are two options that can make the process less stressful. You can find a mediator here: https://www.familymediationcouncil.org.uk/find-local-mediator/ and there are other organisations that offer very clear pricing structures and free calls so you can explore what mediation might look like for you: https://www.mediateuk.co.uk/
There is less cost, proceedings will finish quicker, there will hopefully be less trauma for both parents and children and it will allow both parties to move on with their lives quicker.
Controlling exes will often try to manipulate the system by delaying things, disputing things ‘just because’ and using the courts as a way to bully and try to keep control. These new measures will penalise parents that do this, so hopefully will act as a deterrent, offer reassurance to non-abusive parents and prevent those long and protracted proceedings.
Whatever happens, getting support and understanding strategies that will help you cope better through the process is vital. It’s an emotional rollercoaster, so get in touch if you want to get started.
