I know from personal experience how difficult it can be to leave an abusive relationship – it took me 3 attempts (not bad considering the average number is 8). Leaving any relationship that you have invested time and energy into is difficult, even when you know it is the right thing to do. As empathetic carers we struggle with guilt and can find more reasons to stay than to leave.
There are many questions we ask ourselves :
Where will I go? How will I manage financially? What about the children? How will I cope? Will I be safe?
All of this ‘stuff’ can be sorted bit by bit – the most important thing is your safety . No matter how well you think you are handling things, the situation can change quickly. Just this week one of my clients had to call police, but it was ok, she knew what to do and I supported her through it and put her in touch with the right people who could help her.
Even if you aren’t in an abusive relationship, it can be helpful to discuss your options with a Coach to ensure that you make a fully informed decision. Friends and family can be helpful but they will always have an opinion about what you should/shouldn’t do and they don’t always understand the systems. Divorce, Family Court and financial proceedings can all be daunting if you don’t have someone to talk you through the processes. Having regular sessions or even one of my ‘hotspot’ sessions can help stop the overwhelm that comes with a big life change.
Some of the discussions I have in my coaching sessions include:
- Understanding abusive behaviour and how to protect yourself from it
- How to help children cope with their emotions during/after separation
- Making decisions and emotional preparation for court
- How to cope better and feel stronger
- Coping strategies for dealing with a controlling partner/ex
Having an independent Coach, someone who isn’t emotionally involved can give you honest perspective. If you don’t have this, youcan just get more and more confused. Some of the decisions you have to make during a separation are big decisions that can affect you for many years to come – a Coach can be honest and help you see the pro’s and cons of choices you can make, ensure you are confident with your decisions and help you see the path that is right for YOU.
If you are unsure about your relationship, no matter what stage you are at or if you are struggling after your relationship has ended and wondering what life holds for you now, coaching can help. Coaching is about change that lasts. Practical strategies to help you move forwards – we can’t change what has already happened but we can learn from it. I can help you feel more in control and more empowered and help you create a future that you deserve- after all, life is too short to be unhappy, right?
Please got my testimonials page or to my Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/caronkippingcoaching to hear what others say about how coaching has helped them and then give me a call for a complimentary call to see how I can help you.
