Who are my clients?
Coaching is not counselling, it is not legal advice and it is not mediation or relationship counselling. I don’t see couples, I see either men or women as individuals.
My clients come from all walks of life and at all stages of separation – those considering separation, clients in the process of court/legal proceedings and those who have been separated for some time, but still feel they need support and help to move forwards. All my clients are struggling due to the impact of abusive and controlling relationships. The good news is, that it’s my area of expertise!
Emotional Support , Practical Solutions and Strategies
I can give you the emotional support , practical help and guidance you need, through every stage of your separation. Typical issues I help with are:
Examples
- Guidance with decision-making about separation and divorce
- Better understanding of the divorce process
- Signposting to trusted solicitors, financial advisors, mediators and professionals to support you
- Advice on Civil court options and criminal justice
- Preparation for mediation/Court Hearings/safeguarding meetings
- Practical strategies to help you cope better
- Strategies to help you maintain boundaries with your ex-partner
- Education and support to break the cycle of toxic relationships
- Safe dating after abusive relationships
An independent expert
Having an independent Coach, someone who isn’t emotionally involved can give you a non-judgemental, unbiased perspective. Sometimes it seems everyone has an opinion on what you should/shouldn’t do, and you just get more and more confused. Some of the decisions you have to make during a separation are big decisions that can affect you for many years to come – a Coach can be honest and help you weigh up the pro’s and cons of choices, ensure you are confident with your decisions and help you choose the path that is right for YOU.
If you are unhappy in your relationship or if you are struggling after your relationship has ended and wondering what life holds for you now, coaching can help. Coaching is about creating change that lasts – after all, life is too short to be unhappy, right?
Controlling Relationships
For clients experiencing domestic abuse/coercive control we can discuss your options and I can support you no matter what stage you are at – whether you have only just had your ‘lightbulb moment’ or whether you have been separated for ages, but are still struggling with the impact. Through 1:1 sessions we can explore the dynamics and tactics of power and control – helping protect you from future abuse and helping you regain your confidence and self-belief.
I will not judge you for any decisions you choose to make (or not make for that matter) – this is your life and you are in control of it.
Court Proceedings
Going through divorce or separation can be extremely stressful and then when you throw Court proceedings into the mix it can be overwhelming. I can help you manage your emotions so that you can make informed and rational decisions. Whilst I do not offer legal advice, I have lots of experience supporting clients through all the various types of Court proceedings, so can guide you through the process, whether you choose to have legal help or whether you are repesenting yourself.
Domestic Abuse
I am a trained IDVA (Independent Domestic Violence Advocate) – the specialist qualification for workers supporting victims of domestic abuse.I have worked with many women whose partners were on perpetrator programmes and completed numerous ongoing professional development training courses in Safeguarding, Honour Based Abuse, Mental Health, Sexual Trauma, Child Sexual Exploitation and Legal Rights related to Criminal/Civil Justice.
I have supported many high risk and complex clients over the years and attended many safeguarding meetings, Child Protection conferences. I have a broad depth of knowledge of probation, civil court, criminal court, housing rights and support services. I still have links into statutory and voluntary organisations and can attend safeguarding meetings to advocate on your behalf if needed.
I am an accredited Master Practitioner Divorce Coach trained by https://saradavison.com/, the leading Divorce Coach in the UK. Sara and I have worked closely together, through our mutual work at The Dash Charity and together we have trained several of Sara’s trainee divorce coaches on how to support clients experiencing domestic abuse.
Whether you would like a one-off session or whether you would like regular sessions to keep you on track, if you would like to get started please use the Contact Form and I will be in touch.
Together We Are Stronger.
