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Caron Kipping – Divorce & Separation Coach
Master Practitioner Divorce Coach specialising in abusive and controlling relationships.
Also providing IDVA support in Family Court, training and consultancy.
Clients worldwide.
Just a reminder that itâs my last week before Iâm out of office! ![]()
I have no availability now until I return to work on Monday 12th May but please feel free to email me if you want to book in that week. Itâs always best to try and give me as much notice as you can so I can do my best to give you the day/time that suits you. ![]()
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Contradictory demands and suggestions from your ex are all designed to cause confusion, get all of your attention and exhaust you. ![]()
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Have you noticed how what they say they will do and what they actually do are often two very different things? How they change the rules without telling you? ![]()
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This often applies to parenting rules- your ex might demand that you limit your childâs screen time but then let them play out till way past their bedtime and let them watch age inappropriate videos. ![]()
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Your ex might insist that your child attends football practice because thatâs what they like, and they love the thought of you being forced to watch every weekend in a muddy field , even though your child has zero interest in football. ![]()
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Your ex might try to plan activities in your time with the children but goes mad if you even suggest they take your child to a friendâs party in their time. ![]()
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Get to understand the way your ex thinks, think ahead of time to get ahead of the mind games and work out the best approach. I help clients a lot with this kind of stuff! ![]()
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Remember your opinion and your voice matters too. You are entitled to parent in the way you see fit whether your ex agrees with you or not. đ![]()
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Is your relationship moving quickly? Is it romantic, passionate or just controlling? ![]()
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Nothing screams đŠmore than a partner who is determined to:![]()
* call youâsoulmateâ when you have only been together 5 minutes ![]()
* wants to move in or even worse buy a place together quickly because âthey miss you too muchâ ![]()
* even worse than that – wants you to have a child together and âbecome a familyâ ![]()
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These are all massive red flags and warning signs of controlling behaviour. This is about controlling you, isolating you and tying you together just in case you should change your mind about the relationship. ![]()
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Donât fall for it or you will regret it. Know your warning signs. Sign up to my Insights Programme or book a 1:1 with me. ![]()
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Judges donât wear wigs like this any more and many court buildings look just like office blocks these days rather than big old buildings like you often see on tv, but appearing in Court can still feel daunting. ![]()
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There are things called Special Measures that you can ask the court to do that will help make your experience better:![]()
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* separate entrance/exit so you donât risk bumping into your ex on the way in/out ![]()
* separate waiting room so you can wait in private ![]()
* screens in court so you donât have to see your ex ![]()
* videolink -if you are out of the jurisdiction or can evidence why appearing on video will help you give your evidence you might be given permission to appear via video link meaning you might not have to be in the same courtroom or even the same building as your ex.![]()
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Special measures can make all the difference to how you feel on the day so ask for them by emailing the court and use them. ![]()
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If you want to find out more about how I can support you at court or want to do some preparation for your Hearing just get in touch. ![]()
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Knowing who to trust to represent you in family court can be very nerve-wracking. Every solicitor and barrister claims to be an expert in domestic abuse, so how do you know who to trust? ![]()
How do you really know that your solicitor/mediator understands how to communicate with someone like your ex? ![]()
How do you know your barrister will have the right approach in court? ![]()
How do you know your financial expert is giving you good advice? ![]()
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The truth is you can never be đŻ sure about any professional credentials which is why I never đŻ recommend anyone. Outcomes vary so much from case to case and sometimes the outcome is completely outside of their control so itâs not their fault if the case goes the wrong way.![]()
Itâs also not guaranteed that the most expensive or the most experienced legal professional will get you the right result. ![]()
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However, I do have a database of trusted professionals as a starting point-.ones I believe have a solid understanding of coercive control or ones that have been recommended by my clients, who are all dealing with controlling/abusive exes. If they tell me they believe they did a great job for them they can go on my list (or they go on my âavoidâ list!). ![]()
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If you are thinking of using a solicitor or barrister to represent you I can give you 2 or 3 names to get you going – then do your own research and use my guidance sheet on what questions to ask your legal professional. ![]()
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