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Caron Kipping – Divorce & Separation Coach
Master Practitioner Divorce Coach specialising in abusive and controlling relationships.
Also providing IDVA support in Family Court, training and consultancy.
Clients worldwide.
So lovely to read all the posts and support in my Facebook group at the moment- the ethos of the group is to help each other. You might think your problem is unique but it’s probably not- some of the other ladies in the group will have already been through it and they can share their tips and recommendations to help you through it. (I also have a WhatsApp support group for men). If you’re struggling due to domestic abuse/a controlling relationship or post-separation abuse come and join our community where you can have a safe space to talk, ask for help and get support from people who truly understand what it’s like to be in your shoes. Contact me via the link in my bio or email me at info@caronkippingcoaching.com to set up a quick call with me.
Top tip- check your draft copy of Court Orders if they are drafted by the other side! If you are a Litigant in Person ( self-representing without a barrister) the Judge might direct your ex’s barrister to type up the document. It will be sent to you to make any amendments before being sent back to the Judge. Check! Check! Check again!This is your opportunity to ensure the draft accurately reflects what was said/agreed/directed in the actual Hearing- often there are bits missing, misinterpretations, extra things added in that weren’t agreed, etc so make sure you check it thoroughly against any notes actually taken in court.#familycourt #toptiptuesday #legaladvice #legalprocess #legalknowledge #courtorder #divorcetips #childarrangements #childcontact #childrenofdivorce #divorcecoach
It’s really important to understand how to report a breach as it’s you that is responsible for enforcing it if you have one against your ex. *Civil Orders such as financial orders, Consent Orders, Prohibited Steps Orders, Undertakings, Occupation Orders, Child Arrangement Orders, Specific Issue Orders all need to be returned to Civil Court if there is a breach- that being said, it may well cost you to apply back to court so get advice about whether it’s worth it on this occasion or whether you can manage things another way. * Non- Molestation Order – is unique as it’s a Civil Orders but a criminal offence if it’s breached so report to police. * Restraining Order – this is made in criminal court so report any breach to police and if you have an allocated safety worker via probation because your ex is subject to probation, them too. Just because you have an Order it doesn’t mean your ex will stick to it – remember they hate rules, hate being told what they can and can’t do so will always try to push their boundaries. Be clear about the terms in your Order and make sure you keep those boundaries high! If you need advice on applying for Orders or how to enforce them please get in touch. #civilcourt #familycourt #postseparationabuse #stopharassment #financialabuse #childarrangements #parentingwithanarcissist #criminalcourt #boundaries #dontletthemgetawaywithit #divorcecoachtips #lifeafterdivorce
Simple strategies can get you through those moments where your stress bucket is full and it feels like you are about to lose your 💩We can’t always remove the cause but we can cope better with it. * Don’t put tasks off- they will still be there tomorrow and the day after and the day after that and that leads to an accumulation of anxiety and feelings of failure. Prioritise and work your way through your tasks allocating the relevant amount of time to each one and get things done. Change up your energy levels by going for a walk or doing some exercise – this will give you renewed energy and motivation to deal with life stresses and it will help relieve tense muscles. Use mindfulness techniques to help ground yourself- these will calm your nervous system and slow your breathing down. Put on my inspirational playlist on @spotifyuk – you can’t help but be uplifted or calmed if you put on the right tunes! Writing down your thoughts in a journal , dumping your stress on a page ( instead of directly at your ex!) and organising your tasks to free up some headspace can really help. Try it each day and see how it helps. A few simple techniques can really help. If you have some good stress relief tips feel free to share! 👇#stressrelief #stressbusters #tension #divorceisstressful #stressedoutmom #stressmanagement #stressless
I know some of you have Court Hearings in the lead up to Christmas or are having to do big things like move house-some of you will have had to move into a rental or back home with parents temporarily. That can feel tough anytime but particularly when you are worried about how the children are going to remember this Christmas. First of all try to let go of guilt- you are not to blame for how things are this Christmas.Don’t try to recreate Christmas’s past if your situation is completely different this year-make it completely different instead- try new things, make new traditions, make the best of it. Remember previous Christmas’s weren’t amazing either! Your ex may not have dragged himself out of bed all day or might have moaned about how long it took you to wrap presents, might have drunk too much and completely spoiled the day- if you are safe, if you don’t have to put up with that kind of behaviour, if you can spend time with your children over Christmas that’s all you need this Christmas. Go into the new year with a positive intention that next year will be better- it doesn’t have to be perfect, just better. You can do it. 💗#christmas#christmasstruggles #christmasisdifferentthisyear #christmasisnotcancelled #soloatchristmas #firstchristmasasasinglemom #firstchristmasawayfromhome #lifeafterdivorce #divorcedatchristmas #divorceishard