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Master Practitioner Divorce Coach specialising in abusive and controlling relationships.
Also providing IDVA support in Family Court, training and consultancy.
Clients worldwide.

Caron Kipping – Divorce & Separation Coach

2 days ago

4 years ago today I became an author! 📖I published my first ever book- a nerve-wracking moment after months of hard work compiling my personal and professional experience and hoping that it would at least help one person in the world. It was so great to have the support from friends, family and professionals who proof-read, endorsed and promoted (and continue promoting) this book. I am so grateful to you all🙏💗I couldn’t have imagined how it would be received-almost daily I hear someone say ‘I’ve just read your book cover to cover’ ‘ so many bits resonate with me’ , ‘your book is really helping me’ , ‘it’s like you know my husband!’- I get a little’ pinch me’ moment when I hear comments like that. 💗To everyone that bought a book – I’m so happy it has helped you. I can’t change what has already happened but if the book has helped you understand how you ended up here, helped you realise you aren’t to blame, helped you stay safe and helped you move on then I am happy to have played a part in that. 💪To celebrate I’m donating some more books to my local domestic abuse charity @thedashcharity 💜If you haven’t got your copy yet it’s still available in 27 countries on @amazon! #authorsofinsta #author #amazonbooks #selfhelpbooks #inspirationalbooks #domesticabuseawareness #coercivecontrolawareness #bookstagram #bookofthe #bookbirthday #authorcommunity #author … See MoreSee Less

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Caron Kipping – Divorce & Separation Coach

3 days ago

Abusive and controlling people LOVE to play the victim! They play for sympathy, to get people on their side, to win favour with the children and to create this story in their own mind that completely absolves them of any responsibility for their own abusive behaviour. Get ready for the Oscar-worthy performance! The tears, the heavy sighs, the drama,the comments :* You’re being so brutal, destroying our family * How do you think it makes me feel when you cook dinner for you and not for me..?* I can’t bear to lose our family home …* I can’t eat or sleep, the stress is affecting my mental health so I can’t possibly fill in my Form E at the moment.. Remember- abusive and controlling people know exactly what they’re doing. Don’t believe the‘victim’ narrative-it’s all manipulation to make you feel guilty and to persuade you to back down. Any hardship they are experiencing is due to their behaviour- you are not responsible for that – it’s time to put yourself first for once. Keep focussed, don’t let their ‘dramatics’ throw you off track. When they say they can’t possibly eat, you will find receipts for fancy restaurants and they will have a fridge full of food! So, ignore, ignore, ignore! For more advice on how to deal with the ‘victim’ in your life click the links in my bio or get in touch. 💗#liarliar #playingthevictim #sympathyvote #tuggingatmyheartstrings #feelsorryforme #narcawareness #divorcinganarcissist #recognitiontorecovery #divorcecoach … See MoreSee Less

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Caron Kipping – Divorce & Separation Coach

5 days ago

How many rules do you and your children have to abide by when video calls are part of your parenting plan? 1. You must never cancel a video call (a sick child is no excuse)2. You must ensure that the children are ready on time- even if that means interrupting their activities 3. You must ensure the children are actively engaging even if they would rather be doing something else 4. You must be home for the call, nowhere else 5. If the call says it lasts 20 minutes it must last 20 minutes! 6. You must be out of the room when calls are taking place 7. The children must answer all questions asked of them during calls 8. Even if you are on holiday you must interrupt your fun for the video call It’s never JUST a video call – for guidance on how to manage these video calls get in touch and importantly if they’re going in your plan or CAO make sure you get the detail right so these calls don’t stop you moving on with your life. #postseparationabuse #useofthechildren #controllingbehaviour #lifeafterdomesticabuse #parentingwithanarcissist #divorcecoach … See MoreSee Less

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Caron Kipping – Divorce & Separation Coach

6 days ago

How many potential points of conflict can you recognise when it comes to school …* Choosing a new school * School uniform expenses * School trip expenses * Lunch money* Parents evenings * School events like sports day and nativity * Handovers at school * Homework * Loss of/ forgotten school items * School comms * Inset days and term dates * After-school activities and holiday clubsIt’s amazing how many different ways abusive and controlling parents can use school issues to try and control you and criticise your parenting. I have so many conversations about all of the above! It’s so important you consider all of the above when completing your parenting agreement. In mediation you are much more likely to be able to negotiate and agree some boundaries for school matters-whereas in court it is unlikely much of this will get into your Child Arrangement Order, leaving you to figure out how to manage it with an ex who loves to make your life difficult. . If it’s not in any agreement, you need strategies to manage each of the above – I’m here to help and my community is ready and willing to help you too. Just get in touch 💗 … See MoreSee Less

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Caron Kipping – Divorce & Separation Coach

1 week ago

Solo parenting/single parenting, whatever you want to call it, it can feel hard..All of my clients aren’t solo parenting by choice-their lives are very different to how they thought they would be. Being thrust into the world of solo parenting can be tough- particularly when your ex does everything they can to make your job as a parent even harder. You may be grieving the loss of your family unit as you wanted it, even if your ex was controlling, you can feel very sad and worried about how you will cope as a parent on your own. However, there ARE positives!*You get to parent how you want to- whilst your ex might criticise from a distance, they aren’t standing over you, getting in your face, criticising you- you can choose to ignore their opinion of your parenting.*The bond you have with your children can become stronger as they see you grow in confidence and they see how you always put them first. * Let’s face it, you were probably doing most of the parenting when you were with your ex anyway, so actually now it’s not much different-build up your support network and you will have people you can actually rely on for help if you need it. Here’s to all my single/solo parents out there who are doing an absolutely amazing job in the most difficult circumstances- I am often in awe of how you manage to juggle everything and still show up for your children. You are truly inspirational as parents, but if you need a few resources and a bit of help then please don’t hesitate to get in touch 💗#soloparenting #singleparents #separatedparenting #counterparenting #parentingwithanarcissist #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport … See MoreSee Less

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