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Master Practitioner Divorce Coach specialising in abusive and controlling relationships.
Also providing IDVA support in Family Court, training and consultancy.
Clients worldwide.

Caron Kipping – Divorce & Separation Coach Caron Kipping – Divorce & Separation Coach is at Black Park Country Park.

7 days ago

I laughed this afternoon at another ridiculous demand an abuser made to his ex- for the urgent return of ping pong bats!! I thought I’d heard some crackers before but that was special 🤦‍♀️😂😂Other clients have told me about demands for items that never existed, pushchairs and car seats that don’t even fit their children any longer, furniture they can’t even fit into their new property and childrens clothes that don’t fit them any more. Crazy, right??!! Abusers will demand ridiculous stuff just to give you another task – to exhaust you, to bully you and cause frustration and anger. They don’t need or want any of the items they simply want to take them away from you and feel like they’ve won that particular point. They will demand you find the items and deliver them to them in perfect condition or they will sue you for damages. So childish. They clearly have nothing better to do with their time. 🥱Laugh about it, let said items go, don’t waste your energy. #wednesdaywisdom #postseparationabuse #bullytactics #dramallama #myexisanidiot #childishex #timewasters #energyvampires #dontwastemytime … See MoreSee Less

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Caron Kipping – Divorce & Separation Coach

1 week ago

Isn’t this the truth?! You spend years bending over backwards to keep your family together, to make your partner happy even though they make your life miserable then hey presto! Within 5 minutes they’ve declared they’re in a committed relationship with the next person, have moved in together, introducing their soulmate to your children and are ‘official’. It’s the way the abuser gets to stay in control, it means they still get the attention they are desperate for ( they love to tell a good sob story about you their psycho ex) and it’s a way to punish you when their tactics are no longer as effective. Pity the poor person who fell for the lovebombing- they will hopefully figure it out in time. Remember you deserve better than someone who is disrespectful, who values only themselves and who lies so easily. Don’t grieve for the love of your life who never existed. Move on, focus on healing and rebuilding- you are stronger, smarter and more capable than anyone who thinks they can control you! 🙌#movingon#lifeafterdivorce #mondaymotivation #newpartneralert #myexhasanewgirl #cheatingex #divorcehelp #movingonwithlife #lovebombing #coercivecontrol #toxicex … See MoreSee Less

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Caron Kipping – Divorce & Separation Coach

2 weeks ago

This recent comment struck a chord as so many people experiencing financial abuse have to make tough choices during and after separation. Unfortunately our laws woefully fail unmarried couples, often leaving the survivor struggling financially. All survivors have to make tough choices-can I afford to pay £5k for a barrister or do I keep that money aside because I might need to find a deposit for somewhere else to live? Do I challenge non-payments of CMS and risk another punishment from my ex for doing so? Do I pay for a solicitor and use all my savings or represent myself in court even though it terrifies me.💷Be realistic about your finances- don’t start something you aren’t going to be able to finish. 💷Use your finances wisely – you might want to use a barrister for some hearings but not others for example. If you’re confused about all the options available ask me or go to @rightsofwomencharity or Resolution Org website for more information 💷Pick your battles – challenging your ex about their refusal to contribute to school trips might not be worth the punishment you receive from them for simply asking 💷 Ensure you are accessing all the help you can get in terms of state benefits, debt help, grants and free support 💷 Remember you are not alone- most people who separate from abusive partners end up in some degree of debt, but you CAN rebuild your finances in time. @survivingeconomicabuse @stepchangecharity #financialabuse #economicabuse #economicabuseindivorce #childmaintenance #childmaintenanceservice #familycourt #legalcosts #divorcetips #divorcerecovery … See MoreSee Less

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Caron Kipping – Divorce & Separation Coach

2 weeks ago

These are just some of the typical ways abusers try to bully, manipulate and threaten after separation. Understanding the tactics helps you realise you aren’t alone- these tactics and the things your ex says and does are not unique to you. Recognise the tactics, try to get ahead of the game and understand how to manage them. They use a range of tactics- and remember they know you best so will target your biggest fears – which one will yours use next? It’s exhausting dealing with post-separation abuse but don’t be frightened of it, take control and you can get better at dealing with it. If you need help you know where to come! 💗#postseparationabuse #coercivecontrol #divorcinganarcissist #mindgames#divorcecoaching … See MoreSee Less

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Caron Kipping – Divorce & Separation Coach

2 weeks ago

Just a reminder of the grief cycle- where do you think you might be? There comes a point when you can’t deny the reality any more – you might blame yourself, you might make excuses for the abuse but the fact is it’s never your fault and the abuser abuses because they choose to. Even when abusive relationships end and even if you are the one that ends it you can feel a sense of grief- the loss of what could have been, the dreams of what you wished for for your family. You have a right to feel sad and angry too because you didn’t deserve to be abused and manipulated and you were duped into a relationship with someone who was faking it, who has lied to you and hurt you- but don’t get stuck there- try to move through towards acceptance- accepting that it wasn’t your fault, accepting that you can’t change the abuser and accepting that you have to move on and put this relationship behind you. Find peace in acceptance- learn from this experience, understand how to manage your emotions about it, don’t let your ex continue the abuse and move on to better things. #griefcycle #mondaymotivation #movingon #badrelationships #coercivecontrol #divorcerecovery #narcawareness #divorcesupport #emotionalabuse #divorcecoaching … See MoreSee Less

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