‘Successful mothers are not the ones that have never struggled – they are the ones that never give up despite the struggles’ – Sharon Jaynes Let’s face it when you have a child with an abusive and controlling ex, Mother’s Day can be tough. ‘Everyone else in the world’ seems Read more…
I am a great believer in love. When it’s honest, true and real, it is the best feeling in the world. However, if you don’t know the difference between love and control, you can find yourself in trouble. Here are five early warning signs that should ring alarm bells: When Read more…
Evie was signposted to me by a fellow divorce coach after it became clear that Evie’s situation was very complex. Evie had separated from her husband after a long marriage and this had come as a complete shock. The children were caught up in the middle of it and the Read more…
Here’s another blog from me featured in The Group Hug wellbeing platform. https://www.thegrouphug.com/2021/01/26/legal-aid-evidence/ A solicitor’s letter is not the only option. Have a read if you think you may be entitled to Legal Aid. If you need further advice or have any questions don’t hesitate to get in touch.
Tell people about your situation This can seem counter-intuitive, but the more people that know about your situation, the safer you are. The trick is to make sure it is the RIGHT people you share with – teachers, neighbours, trusted friends, professionals who are supporting you, your employer. People can’t Read more…
I know from personal experience how difficult it can be to leave an abusive relationship – it took me 3 attempts (not bad considering the average number is 8). Leaving any relationship that you have invested time and energy into is difficult, even when you know it is the right Read more…
This year Christmas will be different for everyone. It may also be your first Christmas without family to distract you from your partner’s behaviour or it may be your first one without your children. You may be forced to live with your partner while you are separating or co-parenting and Read more…
This is the International Day to eliminate violence against women. https://www.whiteribbon.org.uk/day Although domestic abuse can happen to anyone, predominantly it is women who are affected. Domestic abuse isn’t just physical. It can consist of many more subtle behaviours – isolating you from friends/family, witholding finances, putting you down and criticising Read more…
Pregnancy is often a time when abuse escalates. Read my blog here:https://www.thedivorcemagazine.co.uk/pregnancy-controlling-relationships-and-divorce/ Having a baby doesn’t make things better. If your relationship is abusive or controlling, it is likely to get worse. Contact me for advice.
My latest blog is up here: https://www.thegrouphug.com/2020/10/29/controlling/ Going to court with a controlling ex is never easy and sometimes you can feel as though you are being rail-roaded into it. It can cost you a fortune (money that ideally could be spent on creating a happier future for you and Read more…