It’s back! With just 50 available spaces, this is a rare chance to connect with other women who understand your experiences and find the vital support and guidance that will empower you to embrace your future with strength and clarity. Come and meet me in person, along with barristers, lawyers, Read more
Financial abuse is one of the most common tactics used within a controlling relationship. If you have no financial independence or access to your own money, it’s harder for you to leave, right? You often don’t even realise that you are being financially abused either. It can be very subtle. Read more
Background Helen contacted me when feeling overwhelmed after years of litigation with her ex-husband. With a demanding job and 2 young children to support, it was a lot to deal with and she was exhausted. Helen was facing court hearings and constant emotional abuse and manipulation by her ex. This Read more
There is a hole in my sidewalk, by Portia Nelson. “I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost… I am helpless. It isn’t my fault. It takes forever to find a way out. I walk down the same street. Read more
Recognising abuse in any relationship can be difficult because often the tactics are so subtle. As well as the generic types of tactics abusers use (constant criticism, belittling, financial abuse, conflict over the children etc ) there are often tactics used within LGBTQ relationships, which are very specific. Tactics you Read more
From 6th April 2023, people who are experiencing domestic abuse, rape or sexual assault will be allowed to request the support of an IDVA (Independent Domestic Violence Advocate) or ISVA (Independent Sexual Violence Advocate) in Civil Court proceedings . The IDVA or ISVA can provide emotional support, information, practical support Read more
Letting your ‘soon to be ex’ know that you want to separate is daunting at the best of times, but when you need to tell a partner who is controlling/abusive, it can be very scary. However, you don’t really have an option if you want to move on – they Read more
I felt a bit lost, very hurt from the domestic violence I had experienced from my ex partner and I just couldn’t shake off the feeling of disrespect from the abuse. It was making me quite ill and sad. I was a single parent to 2 children who were 4 Read more
Muddy Stilettos is the UK’s biggest online lifestyle platform for women outside of London. This platform helps women make the most of their time and thousands of women rely on recommendations and features from Muddy to help them manage their busy lifestyles. Categories in their regular feature columns include ‘things Read more
I have been helping a lovely student from https://www.royalholloway.ac.uk/ and a panel of domestic abuse experts recently. We have been looking and discussing the current gaps in competency frameworks for psychologists who work with victims of domestic abuse. It blows my mind that there is currently NO framework for psychologists Read more