Background Helen contacted me when feeling overwhelmed after years of litigation with her ex-husband. With a demanding job and 2 young children to support, it was a lot to deal with and she was exhausted. Helen was facing court hearings and constant emotional abuse and manipulation by her ex. This Read more…
There is a hole in my sidewalk, by Portia Nelson. “I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost… I am helpless. It isn’t my fault. It takes forever to find a way out. I walk down the same street. Read more…
Recognising abuse in any relationship can be difficult because often the tactics are so subtle. As well as the generic types of tactics abusers use (constant criticism, belittling, financial abuse, conflict over the children etc ) there are often tactics used within LGBTQ relationships, which are very specific. Tactics you Read more…
From 6th April 2023, people who are experiencing domestic abuse, rape or sexual assault will be allowed to request the support of an IDVA (Independent Domestic Violence Advocate) or ISVA (Independent Sexual Violence Advocate) in Civil Court proceedings . The IDVA or ISVA can provide emotional support, information, practical support Read more…
I felt a bit lost, very hurt from the domestic violence I had experienced from my ex partner and I just couldn’t shake off the feeling of disrespect from the abuse. It was making me quite ill and sad. I was a single parent to 2 children who were 4 Read more…
I have been helping a lovely student from https://www.royalholloway.ac.uk/ and a panel of domestic abuse experts recently. We have been looking and discussing the current gaps in competency frameworks for psychologists who work with victims of domestic abuse. It blows my mind that there is currently NO framework for psychologists Read more…
I was invited to join host Matt Wilson on his ‘Superhero Finder’ podcast recently. It was a blast! We spoke about relationships, warning signs, how to support friends in abusive relationships and lots more. You can listen here and also check out his other episodes as he has some really Read more…
My latest podcast interview with the Family Law team at https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/ is now up on Spotify and You Tube. It isn’t easy dealing with a controlling ex but this is exactly where coaching can help you. A few techniques to help you cope better, knowing how to manage your ex’s Read more…
Times are tough and that is an understatement for a lot of people right now. Another excuse Recent research has shown that people who are abusive and controlling are using the cost of living crisis as yet another excuse to abuse. Here are some behaviours you might recognise: How you Read more…
This week myself, https://www.claireblackcoaching.com/ and the people at https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/ discussed how to move on from an abusive ex. Watch and listen as we share all our top tips here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uu5_uydjmK8